Where Safety & Relaxation are Present, Relationships Grow.
A study conducted on heterosexual females shows that watching explicit porn awakens a different part of the brain other than the visual processor. This is key to understand since it has everything to do with turning on the MIND of a woman.
This finding is unexpected and unusual because, under normal circumstances, when watching a regular movie for example, the visual regions of the brain become active. The brain flows blood where it’s needed, based on the task at hand. Watch a movie, get some blood flow to the visual cortex.
However, with explicit porn, the brain only needs to get to gist of what’s happening visually. The brain then shifts blood flow to the areas responsible for sexual arousal. As far as watching sex goes, apparently we don’t need specific details, just the generalities to explicit sex to activate arousal.
The study also finds a correlation between anxiety and lack of arousal. When we are anxious, and concerned about our well being, sexual arousal is quiet.
Anxiety turns libido off.
The interesting idea here is that from the brain’s perspective, individual survival is primary, and sexual survival secondary.
This is yet another reason why safer sex discussions, general communication skills, and the ability to ask for what we want are sexy for the brain. If we feel anxiety before, during or even after sex, it makes future arousal (and orgasm) much more difficult.
The bottom line: When safety and relaxation are present, sexual arousal and deeper connection have a greater chance of taking hold.